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Bystander Intervention
“Heroes are ordinary people
whose social actions are extraordinary. Who act.”
– Phillip Zimbardo
5 Decision Making Steps
Safe
The likelihood of an individual offering help decreases as the number of observers present increases.
Have you ever wanted to help, but didn’t know how?
Or
Let’s see how aware we are
Notice the event
Interpret the problem
Assume responsibility
Plan your course of action
Step Up!
Early
Effective
a great example of creative intervention!
Decide a course of action that best ensures the safety of those involved. Maintain mutual respect and mutual purpose.
Understand the importance of intervening early – beforeit becomes a problem, crisis or disaster.
Develop specific helping skills and know how to avoid harmful helping.
Scenarios
Alcohol
“Heroes are ordinary people
whose social actions are extraordinary. Who act.”
– Phillip Zimbardo
5 Decision Making Steps
Safe
The likelihood of an individual offering help decreases as the number of observers present increases.
Have you ever wanted to help, but didn’t know how?
Or
Let’s see how aware we are
Notice the event
Interpret the problem
Assume responsibility
Plan your course of action
Step Up!
Early
Effective
a great example of creative intervention!
Decide a course of action that best ensures the safety of those involved. Maintain mutual respect and mutual purpose.
Understand the importance of intervening early – beforeit becomes a problem, crisis or disaster.
Develop specific helping skills and know how to avoid harmful helping.
Scenarios
Alcohol
Some upperclassmen are hosting a party. Some of your fellow freshmen have confided in you that they don’t drink and aren’t huge “partiers” but since it’s their brothers and they want to make a good impression, they are going to go.
You are there and everyone seems to be having a good time until one of the seniors suggests a drinking game. You know you can’t handle shots very well and are concerned. Brothers start to gather around a table as one of them begins to explain the rules for the drinking game. The freshmen who had confided in you initially decline but others start hassling them. You can see they’re uncomfortable. They look at you. What do you do?
Relationship Abuse
You are at a party and overhear someone from your hall having a conversation with his girlfriend, both of which you know but not very well. The conversation is getting pretty heated and you hear him call her “slut”. The guy demands that she give him her cell phone so he can check her text messages. The girlfriend tries to leave but the guy says, “You’re not going anywhere until we get to the bottom of this,” and blocks her from leaving by pushing her against the wall. What do you do?
Sexual Assault
You are at a party. During the past hour you notice one of your male friends has been talking to a young woman. They seem to be having a good time but it is clear that the woman has had too much to drink. At one point your friend walks by you and you hear him say he is just going to get her “one more” and “that should be enough.”
A few minutes later you see him put his arm around the young woman and start to lead her towards a bedroom. What do you do?
When Intervening with a friend…
Let the person know you care about him/her and because of your friendship you need to discuss something important. Both starting and ending the discussion with an emphasis that you are doing this out of genuine concern and respect for the person, sandwiches the difficult feedback between strong positives. Choose words you are comfortable with and fit your style.
Report/Review actual events with your friend, as you perceive them. Remember you are evaluating the behavior, not the person. Try to limit your statements to observable, irrefutable facts. The more you have, the better.
Tell the person your own feelings using “I statements” to reveal your feelings.
Discuss with the person what you would like to see happen.
Specify what you will or will not do. Only set ultimatums if you can, and will, stick to them.
I Care
I See
I Feel
I Want
I Will
Academics
A classmate who has been partying a lot and totally blowing off school approaches you and asks to sit next to you during the midterm tomorrow. You have been to every class, studied hard, and even attended the review session last night. You feel a little resentful but you don’t want to jeopardize the friendship. What do you do?
You are there and everyone seems to be having a good time until one of the seniors suggests a drinking game. You know you can’t handle shots very well and are concerned. Brothers start to gather around a table as one of them begins to explain the rules for the drinking game. The freshmen who had confided in you initially decline but others start hassling them. You can see they’re uncomfortable. They look at you. What do you do?
Relationship Abuse
You are at a party and overhear someone from your hall having a conversation with his girlfriend, both of which you know but not very well. The conversation is getting pretty heated and you hear him call her “slut”. The guy demands that she give him her cell phone so he can check her text messages. The girlfriend tries to leave but the guy says, “You’re not going anywhere until we get to the bottom of this,” and blocks her from leaving by pushing her against the wall. What do you do?
Sexual Assault
You are at a party. During the past hour you notice one of your male friends has been talking to a young woman. They seem to be having a good time but it is clear that the woman has had too much to drink. At one point your friend walks by you and you hear him say he is just going to get her “one more” and “that should be enough.”
A few minutes later you see him put his arm around the young woman and start to lead her towards a bedroom. What do you do?
When Intervening with a friend…
Let the person know you care about him/her and because of your friendship you need to discuss something important. Both starting and ending the discussion with an emphasis that you are doing this out of genuine concern and respect for the person, sandwiches the difficult feedback between strong positives. Choose words you are comfortable with and fit your style.
Report/Review actual events with your friend, as you perceive them. Remember you are evaluating the behavior, not the person. Try to limit your statements to observable, irrefutable facts. The more you have, the better.
Tell the person your own feelings using “I statements” to reveal your feelings.
Discuss with the person what you would like to see happen.
Specify what you will or will not do. Only set ultimatums if you can, and will, stick to them.
I Care
I See
I Feel
I Want
I Will
Academics
A classmate who has been partying a lot and totally blowing off school approaches you and asks to sit next to you during the midterm tomorrow. You have been to every class, studied hard, and even attended the review session last night. You feel a little resentful but you don’t want to jeopardize the friendship. What do you do?
The same situation but your friend lost his sister in a car accident a month ago and has been missing class and isolating himself because of his depression. What do you do?