Transcript for Power and Control Wheel Prezi
The Power and Control Wheel
What is Abuse?
A PATTERN OF CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR DONE TO ANOTHER PERSON WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. ABUSE CAN BE PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL OR SEXUAL.
What is Abuse?
A PATTERN OF CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR DONE TO ANOTHER PERSON WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. ABUSE CAN BE PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL OR SEXUAL.
ISOLATION
CONTROLLING WHAT YOU DO, WHO YOU SEE AND TALK TO, WHAT YOU READ AND WHERE YOU GO. LIMITING YOUR OUTSIDE INVOLVEMENT, YOUR ACCESS TO YOUR PHONE OR TRANSPORTATION. USING JEALOUSY TO JUSTIFY ACTIONS.
CONTROLLING WHAT YOU DO, WHO YOU SEE AND TALK TO, WHAT YOU READ AND WHERE YOU GO. LIMITING YOUR OUTSIDE INVOLVEMENT, YOUR ACCESS TO YOUR PHONE OR TRANSPORTATION. USING JEALOUSY TO JUSTIFY ACTIONS.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE
PUT DOWNS. MAKING YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF. NAME CALLING AND MIND GAMES. MAKING YOU THINK YOUR CRAZY. HUMILIATION AND MAKING YOU FEEL GUILTY.
ECONOMIC ABUSE
TRYING TO KEEP YOU FROM GETTING OR KEEPING A JOB. MAKING YOU ASK FOR MONEY. GIVING YOU AN ALLOWANCE OR TAKING YOUR MONEY. NOT LETTING YOU KNOW ABOUT OR HAVE ACCESS TO FAMILY INCOME.
TRYING TO KEEP YOU FROM GETTING OR KEEPING A JOB. MAKING YOU ASK FOR MONEY. GIVING YOU AN ALLOWANCE OR TAKING YOUR MONEY. NOT LETTING YOU KNOW ABOUT OR HAVE ACCESS TO FAMILY INCOME.
MALE PRIVILEGE
TREATING YOU LIKE A SERVANT. MAKING ALL THE DECISIONS. BEING THE ONE TO DEFINE MEN’S AND WOMEN’S ROLES
SEXUAL COERCION
MANIPULATING OR MAKING THREATS TO HAVE SEX. THREATENING TO TAKE AWAY CHILDREN. GETTING YOU DRUNK OR DRUGGING YOU TO HAVE SEX. REPEATEDLY MAKING SEXUAL ADVANCES AFTER YOU’VE SAID NO.
THREATS
MAKING AND/OR CARRYING OUT THREATS TO DO SOMETHING TO HURT YOU EMOTIONALLY. THREATENING TO LEAVE, TO TAKE THE CHILDREN, TO ATTEMPT SUICIDE OR REPORT YOU TO THE POLICE.
MAKING AND/OR CARRYING OUT THREATS TO DO SOMETHING TO HURT YOU EMOTIONALLY. THREATENING TO LEAVE, TO TAKE THE CHILDREN, TO ATTEMPT SUICIDE OR REPORT YOU TO THE POLICE.
MINIMIZING, DENYING & BLAMING
MAKING LIGHT OF THE ABUSE AND NOT TAKING YOUR CONCERNS SERIOUSLY. SAYING THE ABUSE DIDN’T HAPPEN. SHIFTING RESPONSIBILITY FOR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR, SAYING YOU CAUSED IT.
MAKING LIGHT OF THE ABUSE AND NOT TAKING YOUR CONCERNS SERIOUSLY. SAYING THE ABUSE DIDN’T HAPPEN. SHIFTING RESPONSIBILITY FOR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR, SAYING YOU CAUSED IT.
INTIMIDATION
PUTTING YOU IN FEAR BY USING LOOKS, ACTIONS, GESTURES, LOUD VOICE. SMASHING THINGS OR DESTROYING YOUR PROPERTY
Set boundaries. While sharing physical and emotional intimacy, it is important to maintain a sense of autonomy.
Share your feelings, needs, and expectations for the relationship.
Consider your relationship a place of safety where you can both take a break from struggles in other areas of life.
Use laughter to ease tension and to help put differences into perspective.
Help your partner to feel understood. When she/he is talking, make eye contact, ask clarifying questions, and repeat main points.
Share your feelings, needs, and expectations for the relationship.
Consider your relationship a place of safety where you can both take a break from struggles in other areas of life.
Use laughter to ease tension and to help put differences into perspective.
Help your partner to feel understood. When she/he is talking, make eye contact, ask clarifying questions, and repeat main points.
TIPS FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Recognize and acknowledge your partner’s contributions to the relationship.
Plan some activities independent of each other and maintain relationships with other friends & family.
Avoid insulting your partner or calling names. Verbal attacks lead to shorter, less satisfying relationships.
Make “I” complaints not “You” criticisms. Starting a sentence with “I don’t like it when…” is better received and less argumentative than starting a sentence with “You always…”
Talk about sex. Communicating likes and dislikes promotes trust and leads to a more fulfilling sex life.
Recognize and acknowledge your partner’s contributions to the relationship.
Plan some activities independent of each other and maintain relationships with other friends & family.
Avoid insulting your partner or calling names. Verbal attacks lead to shorter, less satisfying relationships.
Make “I” complaints not “You” criticisms. Starting a sentence with “I don’t like it when…” is better received and less argumentative than starting a sentence with “You always…”
Talk about sex. Communicating likes and dislikes promotes trust and leads to a more fulfilling sex life.