Archive for the ‘life transition’ Category

The First Annual Maine Seniors Day is Sept. 14, 2013

Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

holding hands; photo by Edwin RemsbergThe first annual Maine Seniors Day is Sept. 14, 2013 — a day to recognize the service and contributions of all Maine seniors. University of Maine Cooperative Extension would like to thank its hundreds of participating seniors across the state who are actively involved in its range of programs — from Senior Companion to Master Gardener Volunteers. Today and every day, we honor your involvement and efforts.

Tips and Tools on Sleep

Friday, October 5th, 2012

Sleep can be challenging at times with newborns and toddlers up to three years of age.  Zero to Three has some great resources on how to encourage good sleep habits, and how to cope with common sleep challenges.

 

Free Child Development and Parenting Information in Maine

Wednesday, January 18th, 2012

The University of Maine Cooperative Extension  has resources for families!

The Growing Years is a free publication for parents of children 0-5, check out the link and download as many issues as you would like.

You can also get a similar publication delivered to your email in box!  It is called  Just in Time Parenting and it’s in partnership with eXtension.org, which is a website with information from Cooperative Extensions around the country.  Just in Time Parenting has child develop and parenting information in English or Spanish.

If you have questions, send us an email.

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man and pregnant woman at computer

 

 

Celebrating Life’s Changes

Friday, August 19th, 2011
mom working in office

We are surrounded by life’s changes. They take the form of changes we have some degree of control over, like making the decision to have a baby, or start an exercise plan. And changes can also take a less planned form that may cause a little chaos, including a divorce, an illness, or a job loss.1

How can you respond to life’s changes?

Something to consider is: where are you in terms of your readiness to change?2 Deciding to make a change in your life, such as quitting smoking, or beginning a diet, begins with thinking about what you want to do, making a goal, then following a plan. As you move forward, you will have times that you slide backward into the familiar, or the comfortable, but you can still be moving forward in the big picture. Once you have changed your behavior, then you have to maintain it, which can be challenging, but having a concrete plan helps. This means expecting that you might have a setback, putting supports in place when this happens, and thinking about what you need to do to get back on track toward your goal.

All types of changes, even the planned ones, cause transitions. and any transition brings with it a sense of loss, even if the change was planned (like having a baby). It is important to remember that any change brings with it the potential for positive growth.

But what about “chaos” changes?

Sometimes, you can prepare for change, and that experience still throws you off. Other times, you are taken by surprise, and thrown off because you have been entirely unable to prepare.1 In both cases, embracing the chaos feeling as a sign that things are in flux, and that in order to grow and evolve, flux is necessary, remembering that change provides you with an opportunity to change for the better, try to worry less about controlling the change, and focus more on responding. The more you can stay in a place where you can stay amidst the discomfort, not avoiding the pain, the greater the likelihood you will be more comfortable in the long run, and also allow yourself the chance to adapt and grow.

No one said changes are easy, but nothing has ever evolved without change. Patience and understanding will help you through life’s changes, as will making a plan where you can.

References:

1. Bussolari, C.J., & goodell, J.a. (2009). Chaos theory as a model for life transitions counseling: Nonlinear dynamics and life’s changes. Journal of Counseling & Development, 87(1), 98-107.

2. Madsen, S. r. (2003). a Model for Individual Change: Exploring its application to Human resource Development. Human resource Development Review, 2, 229-251.