Normally, you would stay away from spaghetti in a business meal and opt for something less messy — a smaller noodle like macaroni or penne. But sometimes, a little spaghetti into our business or social lives must fall. That said, we are finally going to settle this spaghetti and spoon thing once and for all. The etiquette authorities are divided, so I will quote them directly:
Letitia Baldrige: Letitia Baldrige’s New Manners for New Times, 2003
“If you are a purist about eating spaghetti, linguine, or any other long, thin noodles, you will not use a spoon as a support. You will go it alone with the fork. The secret is in twining just a small number of strands around your fork (four or five.) Keep turning your fork around slowly until all the strands are rolled compactly around it and you’re ready to put it into your mouth.”
Judith Martin: Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, 2005
“A fork is the only utensil that may be used to eat spaghetti while anyone is looking. It must make do with whatever cooperation it may muster from the plate and the teeth. The fork is planted on the plate and the spaghetti is then twirled around the tines of the fork. If you can manage to use the grated cheese to add grit to the mixture for better control, so much the better. The twirled forkful is then presented to the mouth.”
Maria Everding, Panache That Pays, 2007
“Wind a few strands at a time, around a dinner fork, and lift to your mouth. Using a tablespoon and fork is archaic. Do not cut pasta.”
Elizabeth Post, Emily Post’s Etiquette, 1992
“The fork is used to spear a few strands of spaghetti, the tips are placed against the bowl of the spoon, which is held in the left hand and the fork is twirled, wrapping the spaghetti around itself as it turns. If no spoon is provided, the tips of the fork may be rested against the curve of the plate.”
Amy Vanderbilt, Complete Book of Etiquette, 1954
“The aficionado knows that the only graceful and satisfying way to eat real Italian spaghetti (which comes in full-length or perhaps half length rounds) is to eat it with a large soup spoon and a fork.”
Marjabelle Young (Stewart), White Gloves and Party Manners, 1967
“Spaghetti is quieter and less messy if you wind it around a dinner fork held against a large spoon.”
Pro-… uh, wait a minute:
Suzanne von Drachnenfels, The Art of the Table, 2008
“As a base to steady the fork while the noodles are wound, sometimes a spoon is held in one hand, a technique frowned upon in Italy.”
Life is about choices and next time you have spaghetti, you will have to take a side.
Culture and Manners Institute
It’s Valentine’s Day this week, and as is our tradition here at the Etiquette Tip of the Week, we turn our thoughts of love to those who know us best and have seen us at our worst.
That’s right, I’m talking about the IT department.
Where would we be without this team of dedicated professionals to fix our computers and other electronic devices? Down the hall crying in the bathroom, that’s where. Or taking out our frustrations by tossing our malfunctioning electronics into the “fake lake” on the corporate campus. (Who uses that lake besides Canadian geese, anyway?)
IT professionals deal with people at their worst — when they are angry, frustrated and stressed out at their inability to fix their own computers. We must not transfer our stress or anger to people who are trying to assist us. (That goes for everybody assisting us, not just IT professionals.) Treat them with patience, kindness and gratitude. Follow up with a hand-written thank you note to individuals that have helped us or a nice note of praise to their supervisor.
And it never hurts to send some treats down to the IT Department this Friday to let them know they are loved.
Culture and Manners Institute
P&G’s R&D organization is hosting a seminar in the summer of 2014. Through hands-on involvement and a variety of tours and presentations, seminar participants will learn what it is like to work as an R&D Researcher at P&G as they explore all areas of R&D within P&G. P&G Researchers have unique and challenging careers supporting a wide range of cutting-edge research. During the seminar, full-time P&G Researchers will showcase various work areas, providing exposure to analytical labs, product formulation, process design and scale-up, products research, packaging, etc., to increase your understanding of Researcher career opportunities in science at P&G. As a participant, you will be placed in the fast-lane with the opportunity to interview for a 2015 P&G Researcher Summer Internship prior to any other intern recruiting.
The Research your Future in Science Seminar is targeted to diverse college students in a science or engineering technology related major that are finishing their first year or second year of a Bachelor’s degree program. However, all qualified candidates are encouraged to apply.
All travel and accommodations will be paid by P&G for those selected to attend.
Online applications will be accepted year-round, but must be received by March 14, 2014 to be considered for the 2014 Research your Future in Science Seminar. All applicants will be contacted in spring/summer 2014 as to their status.
P&G is seeking students with:
• Proven/exhibited leadership on or off campus.
• Ability to solve problems.
• Ability to engage and work in a diverse working environment
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